Imagine a world without human predators – a world with honest politicians, police officers and judges working for the benefit of us all. A world where people care for each other, not simply for themselves.
About one person in fifty is a predator – someone who hunts and traps the rest of us into toxic relationships and groups.
Criminal psychopaths commit about half of all crime. Narcissists lure us to hand over control of our lives to them. All predators lie. They cheat and steal from us, without any remorse.
At the extreme, predators rise to power and plunge nations into war. Some create violent gangs and others paedophile rings, preying upon vulnerable young people.
Human trafficking and enslavement is the work of predators. Predators who radicalise others into terrorism care nothing for God or goodness; they only care for their own power and glory.
If we could recognise these people, our lives would be safer, better and far more pleasant. It is easy to recognise predators and we should spread this understanding far and wide:
- They pretend friendship and love but feel nothing.
- Predators impersonate caring people but only care for themselves. They are utterly selfish.
- They are charming and excel at flattery, but they are completely insincere. They make you feel great, only to manipulate you. You should beware of any stranger who flatters you.
- Predators are cold-hearted, but they mimic affection, sincerity and concern skilfully.
- They brag and boast and make up outrageous lies. When challenged, they pass the blame. Predators deflect criticism, blame others for anything that goes wrong, and will not take responsibility. Their apologies are insincere and manipulative: no matter how hard they pretend, they will repeat the upsetting behaviour, again and again.
- Predators are impulsive and easily bored, so they demand stimulation and take dangerous risks. They enjoy pushing others into taking dangerous risks, too.
- Predators are bullies with explosive tempers. They enjoy humiliating people. They hate to allow anyone else to have power.
- Predators weaken people with insults and putdowns.
- Most predators control people without physical violence.
- They are usually sexually promiscuous and thrill-seeking.
- Predators are cunning and manipulative. They lie easily and think nothing of breaking a promise.
- They are without conscience: they do not feel remorse or guilt and boast about the harm they’ve done.
- Predators are lazy and live off others, giving as little as possible in return.
- They only work to their own benefit with no concern for the welfare of others.
- Predators hate it when others are praised. They have to be the centre of attention. They feed off and demand admiration.
- They are control freaks, stopping others from taking control of anything if they can, and forcing petty rules on people – rules that are impossible to follow.
- Predators are self-absorbed.
- They have contempt for the law and justice. They boast about getting away with breaking the law.
Any of these characteristics is a warning sign. If someone has most of them, then they are a predator. Good people behave badly sometimes, but bad people – predators – behave badly all the time. They mimic friendly behaviour, but they could not care less about others.
We are only beginning to understand the predatory personality. While predators do pose the greatest threat to society, we must not witch-hunt them. Those who are violent must be kept out of society, but not mistreated. Our overloaded prisons too often allow predators to spread their anti-social, selfish behaviour. They corrupt others and leave prison without being rehabilitated.
There is strong evidence that violent psychopaths have under-developed brains, so cannot be held fully responsible for their actions (see Kent Kiehl’s Psychopath Whisperer).
We need to be warned about the potential danger of narcissists, so they should be labelled, and, if possible, educated into understanding their disorder.
We may be at the beginning of a great social transformation. By isolating and recognising predators, we could solve many of our problems. Nothing is more important to human welfare than taking power away from selfish, anti-social people. Please help us to spread the word!
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