Emotional Abuse

Criticism Versus Complaint

Dr John Gottman started his couples research back in the 1970s, and created his couples lab at Washington University in 1990. As he says, 'Many psychologists at the time agreed with theorist Sydney Jourard that [...]

Better Words: Guilt and Shame

Many therapists make a useful distinction between guilt and shame. Guilt activates the healthy conscience, so the guilty person wants to make amends for any harm done. Healthy guilt is most often short-lived and positive. [...]

Raised In Gaslight

To 'gaslight' means to manipulate someone psychologically into doubting their own sanity. It comes from a 1938 stage play of that title, portraying a man deliberately tricking his wife into thinking she is going insane. [...]