Teaching children how to protect themselves is a priority for all parents: we all know the dangers that predatory individuals pose to a child. So, of course we teach our children about “stranger danger.” But what if the predator is someone we trust?
That is why we should be teaching children intelligent disobedience – saying ‘no’ to a direction when it’s not the right thing to do. Regular readers of this blog will know about Ira Chaleff’s sterling work in the area of intelligent disobedience; we were pleased to hear that he has released his new workbook, Intelligent Disobedience for Children.
This must-read manual gives an easy-to-follow, common-sense approach to teaching children what to do if an adult tells them to do something that isn’t right, such as hurting someone, stealing something, or even submitting to sexual advances. In his handbook, Chaleff explains the best method for teaching children the four easy steps to resisting a “wrong” direction: taking the time to blink, then thinking about the direction, making a choice, and then using their voice to assert themselves.
By following the clear, coherent steps in this handbook, parents can coach their children, deliver positive feedback, and engage them in the process of learning this important prevention technique. The advice Chaleff gives is sound and presented in simple language, with helpful tips on how to present this vital information to children of any age, from toddler to young adult.
An important part of healthy skepticism is the courage to stand up and speak truth to authority, and teaching children intelligent disobedience is a vital way to foster this courage in the citizens of the future. We hope that this handbook finds its way into as many homes, schools and offices as possible, and that the phrase “Blink, Think, Choice, Voice,” will empower future generations of children to stand up to predatory behavior and undue influence.
What do you think about this article? Do you agree? Have you read Ira Chaleff’s book, Intelligent Disobedience? Do you have a story about intelligent disobedience that you’d like to share? We’d love to hear from you!